NEW YORK, USA, February 13, 2008: Sharing meals has always been an important courtship ritual and a metaphor for love. But in an age when many people define themselves by what they will eat and what they won’t, dietary differences can put a strain on a romantic relationship.
Many vegetarians say they cannot date anyone who eats meat. Vegans, who avoid eating not just animals but animal-derived products, take it further, shivering at the thought of kissing someone who uses animal products. Ben Abdalla, 42, a real estate agent in Boca Raton, Fla., said he preferred to date fellow vegetarians because meat eaters smell bad and have low energy.
Lisa Romano, 31, a vegan and school psychologist in Belleville, N.Y., said she recently ended a relationship with a man who enjoyed backyard grilling. Her disapproval “would have become an issue later even if it wasn’t in the beginning,” Ms. Romano said. “I need someone who is ethically on the same page.”
“Food is a huge part of life,” says Jennifer Esposito, 28. “It’s something I want to be able to share.”
“There’s this feeling that if we eat the same thing then we are the same thing, and if we don’t, we’re no longer unified,” says psychiatrist Dr. Zerbe. “Sharing food is an important ritual that enhances relationships.” Specialists advise interdietary couples to find meals they can both enjoy. “Or at least a side dish,” Dr. Zerbe said.
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